Lots of us do. But……….. what can you do to stop delaying, dallying, dawdling and otherwise dragging your feet?
Recognize that you avoid doing something important for yourself (and the ones you love) because…. maybe…………….
- You want to do everything perfectly, so you get anxious about taking the first step
- You think you can just make yourself feel better by not doing it now. Since the stress is killing you, so you just decide to “take a rain check.”
- You know it can hurt you in the future, but you turn to something else now because that is easier to do that
When you feel that anxiety, understand that it is a
What is that sign telling you?
Take a small step to actually start that important task you face.
Yup. “Just Get Started,” says Timothy Pychyl a professor at the University of Calgary.
He goes on to tell you to remind yourself that finishing this task now helps you in the future. In other words,
You won’t enjoy life more if you continue to drag your feet. You will feel guilty or worse.
Now, if you feel you somehow can’t do it, can’t get past your anxiety and take the first step, call a professional.
That professional will help you start and maybe do all the work for you. You just review the plans the professional proposes and decide what you want the professional to get done. You know, “Do this but not that.” “Start this part but don’t start that.”) Oh and you tell the professional to “Get it done be X date.”
You are in charge. And the important task gets done!!!!!
So, take a look at that long To Do List you have. It might include important stuff like
- Get your finances in order
- Write a will so your children are protected and your wishes are respected
- Make sure you have enough money to live on, now that you know you are going to live a LONG time.
Sure these important issues cause stress. But you have postponed managing them long enough. And what has that done for you? Given your more stress?
So why not stop dragging your feet? Why not feel good about yourself and get the important things done.
Recognize your anxiety for what it is…. a sign to start acting. Then take the first step.
You will love the feeling of accomplishment and security.
(That sure feels better than that anxiety, guilt and general stress of procrastination.)
See article in Wall Street Journal Sept 3, 2015 entitled “To Stop Procrastinating, Start by understanding the emotions involved” including tips from Tim Pychyl.